Ask Dr B – about Relationship Development, Self-Acceptance, Over-Committing & Parenting An ADHD Child - Episode 038

Welcome to the seventeenth Ask Dr B episode, and the thirty-eighth episode overall of Harness Your ADHD Power, a podcast show I created to explore the many facets of adult life with ADHD and how you can learn to harness your personal ADHD power to become unstoppable.

I’m so glad you could join me today.  We’ve got four great topics so let’s get to it! 

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 Thanks to four listeners, who have shared their questions with me on the topics of:

  1. Relationship Development
  2. Self-Acceptance
  3. Over-Committing
  4. Parenting An ADHD Child

Thank you to Mario, Rita, Shoshana and Chicago Mom for your questions for the Ask Dr B episode.

Mario shared and asked:  “Relationship development seems to be hard because of some old codependent habits. For me good communication has always been a problem with both of my wives. I seem to do OK with friends and relationships; maybe it’s the close intimate ones that are important to me that are harder to work on.  Good communication to me is having my feelings expressed in ways the other person can get what I’m trying to convey. Feelings have been hard to express in the past, and I’m doing a lot better now. I know in both my marriages I had problems shutting down when I felt hurt or pain from their comments or feelings that dredged up from the past.  Is that an ADD problem or do main stream people have the same challenge?”

Rita asked and shared:  “Not quite sure how to phrase this question or thought. Do you have any tips or thoughts on how to "recover" or not feel so bad or take it personally, when random thoughts come out of your mouth during a conversation, and the people involved stare at you like you're an alien or unintelligent? Sometimes, I share thoughts impulsively, and then they sound so "air heady" and I feel embarrassed right after, and then replay it in my head over and over. UGH!!”

Shoshana asked and shared:  “What are some helpful ways to not take on too much?  I say yes, get overwhelmed, and then stressed out.”

Chicago Mom shared and asked:  “I've become an avid listener of your podcast thank you so much. It's become a tool as a parent with a child that has ADHD. I have many questions because we've just begun the journey. My question is how can I best serve my 9-year old child on her journey? Any resources you may have are greatly appreciated.”

And remember to pay attention to your WINS!!  Please don't short-change yourself by thinking that it’s pointless or stupid to reward yourself for things you’re “supposed to do.”  That couldn’t be further from the truth.  And if you feel that these are the “thankless little tasks of life,” they probably feel that way because that’s how you think of them and have given them that “less than” meaning.  Please don’t.  These are the very things that deserve to be celebrated so they become easier to do consistently, and you find them more enjoyable each and every time.

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I’ve been asked a few times to explain exactly “how” to rate the show and write a thoughtful review on iTunes as it seems to be confusing to many of you, and that you’d really like to do so but haven’t been able to yet.  So, here’s what you do from a computer and it should be fairly similar on your mobile device. 

How to "rate" the show on iTunes:

  • Go to iTunes and find my podcast show, Harness Your ADHD Power.
  • In that initial “Details” view, you will see the Subscribe button, where you can click and subscribe to the show, as well as click and see that you can tell a friend, share on Twitter and on Facebook.  You will also see the list of episodes available.
  • The tab next to “Details” says “Ratings and Reviews.”  When you click on that, you will see all the customer reviews and ratings.  And you will see where it says, “Write a Review.” 
  • You click on that and a box opens up that says, “Write a Review.”  It’s asks for Nickname, Title and Review plus you click the stars to rate the show, like 5-stars if you feel it’s great.
  • Then you click “submit” and it should show up later that day; usually takes a number of hours before it shows up on iTunes for whatever reason.  You can always take a screen shot and save it until you see your review posted in case something goes wrong; that’s up to you.

Anyways, that’s my mini-tutorial on how to rate the show and write a thoughtful review, since I’ve been asked a few times now.  I hope the little mini-tutorial is helpful to you.

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A Favorite Quote:

George Bernard Shaw said, “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”  The question I have for you at this point of our journey together is “Are you willing to seek to understand the other first before you seek to be understood by them?”   I hope so; it will make a world of difference in your relationships with others and with yourself.

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