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Welcome to the eleventh Ask Dr B episode, and the twenty-sixth episode overall of Harness Your ADHD Power, a podcast show I created to explore the many facets of adult life with ADHD and how you can learn to harness your personal ADHD power to become unstoppable.

I’m so glad you could join me today for my podcast show.  I’ve changed things up a bit again, so you don’t get into a rut and stop paying attention in the moment because you anticipate what’s coming next.  A little newness keeps things fresh and lively.  Plus, this is good training in case you are one to jump to conclusions or assumptions and miss something important; wouldn’t want that to happen to you.

Another common trait is being very curious; in other words, having lots and lots of questions!  That’s definitely me!!  Probably you too!  However, you might be a bit shy (or not) about making your questions known, especially if asking lots of questions was a problem for others when you were growing up.  In fact, they might have even said to you, “You never stop!  You are always asking questions!  Aren’t you ever satisfied?”  They might have said these things like it was you that had the problem, instead of it being a problem they had with your voracious appetite to know and learn and make sense of things.  Nothing wrong with that appetite!!

Did you know that today’s success started last night?  Seriously, it did.  If you got a good night’s sleep, felt rested when you woke up this morning and were excited about your day, then you’ve set yourself up for success.  If you let yourself stay up late again, because you “felt like it” and didn’t gently and lovingly escort yourself to bed, then you’ve got some work to do around that.  With our fast-paced brains, we definitely need our sleep!

My VERY curious mind is always wondering what the #1 biggest struggle or frustration is for you right now, so I can help you with it.  I wake up each day wondering that, so I can direct my energy to the solutions you need.  I really want to know; I do.  The thought of millions of adults with ADHD suffering every day is a painful thought to me, especially when I have answers and solutions that could ease your pain.

In this episode, I respond to topics about issues or challenges you experience as an adult living with ADHD, and offer you hope.  Today's topics are Making Amends, Not Compromising Your Well-Being & Completing Important Tasks.  Thank you to the anonymous listeners for today's topics.

And remember to pay attention to your WINS!!  Look for them, acknowledge them, celebrate them in a full-hearted way!  Exaggerate your emotions and feel the rush of excitement of having done something special and worthy of celebrating.  You can even celebrate YOU!

Developing your Executive Function Skills and shifting your limiting beliefs is the fastest and most effective way to overcome ADHD limitations, find focus, gain confidence, and newfound freedom in your life!

My mission is to put an end to the worldwide needless suffering of adults with ADHD and those with under-developed Executive Function Skills - whether from ADHD, chronic depression or anxiety, trauma, addictions, or chronic illnesses.  And, you don't need a formal diagnosis to know you need help developing these executive function skills in order to greatly reduce your suffering.


Full Episode Transcript HYAP Podcast Episode #026
Ask Dr B – about Making Amends, Not Compromising Your Well-Being & Completing Important Tasks
Thursday, July 20, 2017

Today is Episode 26 with Dr B, and the eleventh “Ask Dr B” Show.

Hey ADDers! I’m so glad you could join me today for my podcast show. I’ve changed things up a bit again, so you don’t get into a rut and stop paying attention in the moment because you anticipate what’s coming next. A little newness keeps things fresh and lively. Plus, this is good training in case you are one to jump to conclusions or assumptions and miss something important; wouldn’t want that to happen to you.

Another common trait is being very curious; in other words, having lots and lots of questions! That’s definitely me!! Probably you too! However, you might be a bit shy (or not) about making your questions known, especially if asking lots of questions was a problem for others when you were growing up. In fact, they might have even said to you, “You never stop! You are always asking questions! Aren’t you ever satisfied?” They might have said these things like it was you that had the problem, instead of it being a problem they had with your voracious appetite to know and learn and make sense of things. Nothing wrong with that appetite!!

And just a quick reminder that today’s success or lack of it started last night. That’s right. If you got a good night’s sleep, felt rested when you woke up this morning and were excited about your day, then you’ve set yourself up for a successful day. If you let yourself stay up late again, because you “felt like it” and didn’t gently and lovingly escort yourself to bed, then you’ve got some work to do around that behavior and way of thinking. With our fast-paced brains, we definitely need our sleep!

What about your questions? Did you wake up with any this morning? If so, and you’re looking for answers, consider sending your questions over to me so I can answer them or find the answers for you. I’d love to do that! Or perhaps your questions arise in the moment, when you think about the tasks you have to complete and feel overwhelmed before you even get to them because you have questions about what to do, when to do it, how to do it or if you even should do it? Is that you? If so, then keep track of your questions, as best you can, and send them over to me so I can help you get answers and get unstuck. And, you are welcome to ask more than one question, on more than one occasion. If you have lots of questions, then ask me lots of questions; seriously!! You’ll be doing me a big favor by sending me your questions! Seriously!!

And in case you’re wondering what kind of questions you can ask me, here’s some examples of what others have asked me over the years:
· How can I manage my hyperfocus better?
· What can I do to be on time instead of 10 minutes late to everything?
· Does life ever get any easier living with adult ADHD?

Your questions matter to me; all of them! How are you going to do what you want to do if your mind if filled with questions and roadblocks instead of excitement and motivation? Where are you supposed to turn in times like that? Well, one place you can turn is to me, which is one reason I created the Ask Dr B format. It’s not just that we are a curious bunch, although we are. You may also be sitting with huge gaps in your knowledge base and can’t move forward on what you want to achieve; in fact, you may not even know what questions to ask to get the information you need. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if someone would ask you “what are you trying to do” and you could tell him or her? And then they would ask you “do you know how to do A, B, C, D, etc. and you could tell them what you knew and didn’t know, and because they know the sequence, they could answer your questions and guide you through the sequences of the tasks you want to get done? I’d like to be that person for you.

And if you’re the kind of person who needs to have all the details up front before you step into the ring, and you have huge gaps in the process or sequence of events, how exactly are you supposed to proceed? Seriously! This has nothing to do with how smart you are and everything to do with learning style. Even with ADHD, some of us are quite literal and need the step-by-step version of the story to engage. Others of us are more inferential and just jump in and kind of fly by the seat of our pants; filling in the details and information as we go along. Either way, you need what you need and that’s how it is. And, if you’re anything like me, and don’t get the answers you need, you might keep spinning or ruminating like I do until I get the answers I need. The entire situation can turn into one overwhelming experience. Perhaps that happens to you too.

MY very curious mind is always wondering what the #1 biggest struggle or frustration is for you right now, so I can help you with it. I wake up each day wondering that, so I can direct my energy to the solutions you need. I really want to know; I do. And I’d love to know how ADHD is the same or different in all parts of the world, which is one of the reasons I created The Harness Your ADHD Power Community on Facebook. And a special thank you to those of you, who have generously shared your thoughts with me, told me that you are truly suffering. Lost productivity, lost income, lost respect by family, lost respect among peers and clients, feeling of hopelessness, struggle and inadequacy. Even feeling like you can’t do school and aren’t smart because your teachers or professors aren’t teaching you the way you learn best. That’s a lot of suffering!! The thought of millions of adults with ADHD suffering every day with these challenges is a painful thought to me, especially when I have answers and solutions that could ease your pain.

I made it even easier to get your questions over to me. Just head over to my website and you’ll see “Ask Dr B” in the main menu now. Just click there and ask away!! I’ll be notified immediately and get to work on them for the next Thursday show.

And in the event your question is outside the scope of my license, practice and/or knowledge base, I will find a guest who can address your question and have them do so on one of the special guest shows. Either way, you will get answers, to the best of my ability to provide them.

If you’re a new listener, welcome! I’m honored that you’re here. If you’re a subscriber or regular listener, thanks for your loyalty and for trusting me to share meaningful content with you in each and every episode. And whether this is your first or twenty-sixth time of listening to my show, you’ll hear me say time and again, that you are NOT what you do or don’t do; that you are more than that. WE are not defective or less than as people – as human beings; we’re just wired differently and the difference is actually pretty cool once you have answers to your questions, know what you need to do and how to do it, and have the best tools for you to get it done, with the least amount of stress. It’s my hope that you’ll get some of what you need here.

And remember, I’m a work in progress, just like you. Sometimes I’m the tortoise and sometimes I’m the hare; it depends on lots of different factors. Sometimes I’m even a little scattered when I have so many amazing thoughts or ideas coming in all at once, and I have to slow things down, take a breath and regroup myself, letting all those ideas know that I will pay attention to each of them, one at a time; just can’t all at once or I get flooded and overwhelmed. Perhaps you can relate. Point being, I’ve learned a lot about myself over the years because I’ve been willing to be a student of my own life; to step into the situations that present themselves and learn how to navigate what I find. This has meant learning how to quiet my challenges (and there’s been plenty of them) and make the most of my gifts (more than I ever knew was possible for me), once I got the information I needed, and I trust you will too, once you get what you need.

I absolutely love my world map, with little flags marking all the countries and states where you all are listening. It’s so cool! I want to acknowledge and welcome new listeners in Brazil, Malaysia, Philippines, Hungary, Hong Kong, South Africa, Denmark, Romania, Kenya, Australia, Saudi Arabia, Belgium, Japan, Sweden, Germany, Netherlands, Ireland, United Kingdom, Canada and just about every state in the US. It’s very exciting to know that WE are not alone at all! I am not much of a world traveler, however, it is exciting to know that my voice is traveling to all of you, no matter where you are on this planet of ours. That no matter where you are located, you are listening and relating to the challenges and stories and solutions.

Thank you ALL for listening, and I trust you will benefit from at least one episode of this podcast show; hopefully more, but at least one. Knowing you’re there listening, and reading your reviews and emails makes me want to give even more of myself to meet your needs via this podcast show, live videos, innovative programs, a Facebook community page and in many other ways. You are a blessing to me, and your presence in my life is beyond anything I’d ever imagined.

NEWS FLASH!! I created a special group for us to be able to relate on Facebook as a community. The group is called “The Harness Your ADHD Power Community.” After seeing that you all are listening from so many different parts of the world, I thought it would be a wonderful thing for us to be able to come together from our many diverse spaces and freely communicate and discuss focus, follow through, self-management and other relevant topics. I even created a quick little poll to let me know what episodes you’ve all been listening to and which ones you’ve enjoyed the most. Plus, just a few “house rules” for the highest good of the group space: be mindful of your posts and comments, don’t spam (including self-promotion), celebrate your WINS, and get involved! Let’s support each other on this journey of becoming and living as our best SELF! Of moving from stuck to unstoppable!! I’d love to get to know you all! Come join the group! Again, it’s “The Harness Your ADHD Power Community” on Facebook.

Before I get to today’s questions and answers, I have a question for you; and you’ve heard it before if you’re a regular listener. It’s about your state of mind and your WINS. I can’t emphasize this enough, and will continue to ask you about your WINS and encourage you to acknowledge and celebrate them every day! I found this quote by Zig Ziglar that fits what I am saying: “You were born to win, but to be a winner, you must plan to win, prepare to win and expect to win.” To me Zig is talking about your birthright to win and in order to claim that birthright, you have to plan, prepare and expect to win, all behaviors or attitudes that those with focus, follow through and self-management challenges typically have difficulties with. However, you can fill in those information and skill gaps; it’s a matter of needing to learn some things. One of the reasons I encourage you to “really look” for your WINS, and then acknowledge and celebrate all of them, is because they will lift your spirits, create a “can do” mindset and lead you to your greater successes.

So, back to WINS! I talk a lot about WINS. Why? Because cultivating and having a WINS mindset can transform how you experience your life. And how you experience your life and the meanings you give to your life events contributes to the quality of your life. So, have you been taking the time to look for your WINS? Really look for them? Acknowledge them? Celebrate them? Share them with others who appreciate what a big deal they are for you and celebrate with you? Are you doing this every day? I sure hope so because there is truly “magic” in all of this.

And, what do I mean by WINS? They are those little things that happen every day that are good things, positive things in the bigger picture of your life, and yet go unnoticed, unacknowledged and uncelebrated by you. It takes shifting your mindset, and it’s totally worth it. Please don't be the person that continues to tell yourself that it’s pointless to reward yourself for what you’re ‘supposed to do.’ That couldn’t be further from the truth!! Those are the very things that deserve to be celebrated so it becomes easier to do them consistently and more enjoyably each and every time.

So, what’s it going to be for you today? If you began you day more slowly instead of with an adrenaline rush, it’s a WIN. If you took the higher road and didn’t have a need to prove that you were right, it’s a WIN. Perhaps you donated some of your time to be of service in your community, that’s a WIN. Maybe you took a few minutes to look in the mirror this morning and smiled at yourself, that’s a WIN. You get the point; celebrate all of them. And none of this “half-hearted celebrating”; mean it. Exaggerate your emotions. YES!!!! WOW!! AWESOME!! And, certainly celebrate the big WINS too; it’s just that they happen less often and so celebrating daily WINS makes a difference faster in your life because of the frequency.

Shifting gears now…

Today’s episode is all about answering the questions you have about issues or challenges you experience as an adult living with ADHD, and offering you hope. How much time do we have? Not much. So let’s get to it.

Thanks to you, my listeners, for today’s questions on these 3 topics:
1. Making amends to those you think you’ve harmed in some way
2. Not compromising your well-being to keep up with a heavy work load
3. Completing important tasks at work

Now back to being an adult with ADHD in today’s world.

There are a lot of different reasons why you have the questions that you do. It’s possible you have lots of misinformation or are missing steps or strategies or a philosophy or an understanding of yourself well enough to slow yourself down to think something through, rather than rush yourself and make mistakes. Everyone’s reasons are different; and I’m grateful for the opportunity to be here to answer what I can for you.

I’m going to share each topic with you, share a little about the topic, and offer my point of view about the topic, which includes an action step to take. Yes, there’s an action step for each topic, because just hearing an answer isn’t enough; you need to take action or nothing changes; so don’t let yourself off the hook. You do have the ability to respond to your needs. I hope at least one of these topics will resonate with you and be of benefit. So let’s keep going.

Thank you to anonymous, in USA for the first topic of making amends to those you think you’ve harmed in some way.

· They asked – “How would you approach wanting to make amends for relationships and situations that have been seriously damaged or even terminated by behavior that you only recently learned stemmed from an expression of symptoms related to undiagnosed ADHD? (Avoidant behavior, lack of follow through, etc.) And is there a way to do this without mentioning that you have this disorder and accompanying challenges, and that it contributed to what went wrong?” Look forward to hearing what you have to say about this, and hope this will be helpful for others, just as helpful as all of your Ask Dr B episodes have been. Many thanks in advance!

Response to anonymous listener, in USA:

· Thanks for your questions!

· I decided that I could weave them all together and talk about making amends in the way I came to understand making amends throughout my years in recovery.

· First, I’d like to comment on the concern I hear that you have about whether or not you need to “reveal” information about yourself in order to make your amends. To me, this concern stems in part from behavioral traits of codependency where you are used to feeling the need to explain or justify what you say and give information because you feel you have to. My short answer here is that you don’t “owe” an explanation or justification to make amends. I’ll continue on now…

· The purpose of making amends, or living amends, as I’ve learned it is to cover certain very specific points in your amends. They are:
o What you did, such as you broke commitments to get together very last minute, on many different occasions and were to be the driver to the event.
o The effect that had on the person, such as they lost out on attending things because they weren’t prepared to go solo since they didn’t have any advance notice.
o The emotion impact on the person, such as they felt a breach of trust between the two of you as a result of your many broken commitments and that weakened the relationship between you.
o That you apologize specifically for breaking trust with them, weakening the relationship bond between the two of you and causing them distress.
o The living amends part, which is what you intend to do differently moving forward might be something like you will not make a commitment in the future that you don’t know you can keep. And if you make a commitment and an emergency situation occurs where you need to cancel you will let them know immediately, and hopefully at least 24 hours in advance, so they can have ample time to make other arrangements and take care of their needs.

· What I’ve just shared is the “general guidelines” that I learned about making amends or rather living amends. I call it living amends because if you are going to continue to be in relationship with people, things will happen and when you make living amends, it’s about cleaning up what happened as soon as possible, and laying out a new behaviors or protections you will put in place to protect your relationship with that person moving forward. It tells them what you are going to do differently and what they can expect if you don’t.

· Making amends is for you and to make things right for you within yourself. You are the only person you have any control over. The other person has the right to accept your amends or not; their choice. If they agree to listen, great. If they accept what you say and accept your amends, great. And if they don’t, that is their right. You did what you could and you have to accept their decision to not want your amends and move on. That is also part of this process.

· That said, it is very important that you don’t make amends until you know you are really ready to make them and to hold yourself accountable to the new behaviors you commit to.

· Trust is a very fragile thing. It takes a lot to build or create and can be broken or fragmented in a moment and sometimes never able to be repaired. You want to be very mindful to NOT break trust again.

· For now, I hope my input has given all of you some things to consider about making your amends and clearing things within yourself, which is truly the purpose of making amends; to let go of what is unresolved within you since you have no control over how the other people will respond to your amends; only have control over what you say and do to attempt to clear up things.

Transitioning to our next topic…

Thank you to anonymous, in USA for the second topic of not compromising your well being to keep up with a heavy workload.

· They shared and asked - “Dear Dr. B, thanks so much for your podcast. You're the first person to explain things to me in a way that is actually changing the way I do things. I am a physician in a work-heavy specialty. I am much slower at getting through my work than my peers. Your podcasts are definitely giving me ideas about how I am making certain tasks more involved than they need to be. However, as a result of my slowness, I am currently so overloaded (in addition to being behind) that I see no other way to get through my day other than to skip meals and skip sleep. Not including working late and not being there for my kids. I know that this is not sustainable but if I don't complete my work for the day then I will just be more behind tomorrow. What is your advice for when you are decompensated like me and genuinely don't have time to accomplish what needs to be accomplished? I am not going to get faster over night. How do I sustain life while I am trying to implement changes? Is there any other option other than quitting being a doctor? I already feel like a failure for having to live such an extreme life just to do my job. I think quitting will make me feel really hopeless about my ability to hold a job in general). I hope to hear from you. Thanks!

Response to anonymous listener, in USA:

· Thanks for your questions and what you shared!

· There’s a lot I don’t know about your situation, however, I will do my best with the information that I do have and might “assume” a few things or pose a few questions to you as well.

· First, you like so many of the adults I have worked with over the years are stealing time from the only places you feel it’s available in order to get more time to get things done. However, stealing time from sleep and meals is probably the worst thing you can do to yourself in the hopes of getting more done.

· In general, those of us with ADHD need our sleep; it’s a sacred essential. We also need the fuel for mind and body in order to be able to even have a shot at functioning well. When you deprive yourself of regular, ample sleep and nutrients, you are actually causing yourself to go slower and become less effective with your time; not more effective.

· When my clients and students have followed my logic and lead about this and gotten themselves to sleep and eat better, what they are able to achieve in the time that they have is much more, and better quality.

· What I don’t know about your situation is whether or not part of your ADHD management includes medication and accommodations at work. If not, that is something to consider, unless you already have and it isn’t an option for whatever reasons.

· Something else to consider is that ADHD in adults most often does not travel alone, so to speak. Meaning that many adults also have other co-occurring conditions such as depression, anxiety, learning differences, information processing challenges, and such. Any one of these can slow you down plus the lack of adequate nutrients and sleep. If more than one exists, there’s that much more to address.

· Plus, there can be medical considerations or organic reasons for the slowness, such as thyroid or adrenal function.

· What I am saying I guess is that there are so many different pieces here that need to be considered in order to put together the best possible solutions for you to excel in your chosen profession.

· I agree that quitting being a doctor is NOT the solution! And especially if you love the practice of medicine. It’s heartbreaking to think of you giving up medicine!! I worked in the medical field for 10 years while attending university and know how rigorous the pace is. However, with all the facts gathered together, and your situation seen clearly, with all the moving parts so to speak, I trust that there is a solution.

· From having worked in the field and managed large medical practices, I felt it was my duty to be mindful to manage the load that was placed on each physician because if I allowed them to get overbooked and buried, they would not be able to function and serve the patients as they needed to nor have a good attitude about their work. It doesn’t necessarily sound like your place of employment is looking out for you in the way that I felt I should for our physicians, however, that’s where the accommodations are important, if that’s an option for you.

· What I find is especially important in solving such complex situations as you are describing is to be very thorough in investigating and understanding everything that is occurring so it can all be sorted out into various themes or categories of issues to attend to as well as what might be feeding into what or aggravating some of the challenges and making them worse.

· There is no simple answer to the very complex situation you find yourself in, however, I would be honored to speak with you about it, if that’s of interest to you; just let me know and we’ll arrange to do so.

· For now, I hope my input has given you some ideas about things to consider attending to, such as more sleep, nutrients, accommodations and ruling in or out other co-occurring conditions that may be impacting your overall situation.

Transitioning to our next topic…

Thank you to anonymous in USA for the third topic of completing important tasks at work.

· They shared and asked – “My #1 biggest struggle or frustration is taking action to complete important tasks at work. Part is paralysis and the other is feeling stuck in my career with no growth opportunities. I’ve been struggling with this challenge for about 6 months now. I feel that what prevents me from resolving this issue is resentment and frustration. I’d like to find and define a new path using my strengths that puts me back on track for success. I need to learn about obtaining career aspirations. What do I go to get going on this?”

Response to anonymous listener in USA:

· Thanks for sharing your thoughts and question with me!

· From what you’ve shared, it’s easy to see how resentment and frustration would be getting in the way of your productivity. Kind of like a catch-22. You know that you need to get the work done yet without the feelings of reward or incentives, you don’t really want to. What would be the point if you don’t feel that your efforts are being rewarded?

· There are a couple of ways I view the situation you have described. One is to find something in your current position that is rewarding and exciting to you (for the time being) and focus on that so you can continue to produce your work. That could solve the first issue of not getting the work done because of resentment and frustration.

· You mentioned that you’ve been struggling with this challenge for about 6 months. It’s not clear if it’s just in the past 6 months that you’ve become dissatisfied with your position or allowed yourself to become aware of just how dissatisfied you are or something that has changed in your place of employment that has caused the shift in your attitude to occur.

· However, once the frustration and resentment piece has been handled temporarily, that would make the space and be the time to explore defining and finding the new path for using your strengths that puts you back on track for success.

· That would include knowing what your strengths are, what your weaknesses are, and most importantly, what’s lights you up? What’s your passion? What excites you? What is it that would have you getting up early in the morning excited about the day ahead of you if that’s what you knew you would be doing?

· Years ago I read a book entitled, “Don’t Retire, Rewire” by Jeri Sedlar and Rick Miners. My biggest takeaway from their book is the concept of “drivers.” That there are consistent themes or elements that you can find throughout your life that have been important to have in everything that you have truly enjoyed doing. Some of their driver themes include accomplishments, action, authority, belonging, competition, creativity, experiences, fulfillment, friendship and more. Depending on what your essential “drivers” are, you need to make sure that they exist in all that you do if you want to feel good about any given situation or employment opportunity.

· For now, I hope my input has given you some ideas about moving forward in a methodical way by addressing your resentment and frustration first, in order to make room to explore the options and possibilities for moving forward with a more successful life.

That’s it for our 3 questions today. I want to thank the 3 anonymous listeners for their topics for the Ask Dr B format.

Remember, your questions matter to me. If I am going to help make a difference in your lives, I need to know what your challenges are; what you are struggling with. I really want to know what the #1 biggest struggle or frustration is you have right now, so I created a quick little survey for you. It’s 6 questions and brief.

The link to the survey is in the Show Notes as well as in the post for today’s podcast episode. I hope you’ll stop by my site and choose to take a few minutes to respond to the survey. Thanks in advance for your participation. Survey Link:

A Favorite Quote:
W. Clement Stone said, “There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.” The question I have for you at this point of our journey together is “Does your current attitude need a makeover to serve you better? And if so, is today the day you make that shift?”

Whether you’re learning from my podcast episodes or live videos or working with me directly in my innovative online program or 1:1, you are in my world and I’m here to serve your needs. So be sure to reach out and get your needs met. It’s up to you to take action here so things can change for you. Two actions steps to get some of your needs met are:

1. Ask Dr B and get your questions answered directly on a podcast episode.

2. Answer the quick little 6-question survey so I know what your #1 struggle or frustration is right now.

You’ll find the links for both action steps on my website! Do it for yourself today!

And if you’d like additional information about my innovative program, ADDventures in Achievement, that is opening again soon for new enrollment, be sure to get yourself on the Waitlist so you’ll be the first to know the minute doors are opening up again. That’s on my website too.

I appreciate you showing up to listen today and in the future. I have some special episodes in the works for you; they’ll be coming soon. For now, the new episodes are released on Mondays and Thursdays. As a subscriber, the newest episode will be in your feed by 1 am Pacific time, plus you won’t miss out on any “extra special episodes” I create with guests, as well as some other different types of episodes; certainly a good reason to subscribe. Perhaps make a date with yourself to listen to each podcast episode, so you hear your questions answered if you’ve asked any for the Ask Dr B format or just enjoy all the episodes, where I’ll be talking about such compelling topics as releasing shame and guilt, seeing the path, making a plan, and more in-depth separate episodes as a spin-off from episode 013’s multi-level topic. Remember, I love answering questions, so ask away for the Thursday episodes.

I’m here for you and will continue to tailor both the Ask Dr B and regular episodes to meet your needs. To do an even better job of that, I’d love to know what you need to know or would just enjoy hearing my point of view on.

So, if you enjoyed today’s episode or any of the other episodes, please share this podcast show with your friends and family, as well as rate the show. If you’d like to do a little more, write a thoughtful review on iTunes so I know I’m meeting your needs. It doesn’t have to be anything lengthy; just a line or two of how the podcast is helping you, if it is. I love hearing from you and learning how the podcast show is benefiting you and those you care about. It means a lot to me to know you life is getting a little bit better every time we get together. So that’s about it for today. If you want to participate in my quick little survey, ask me a question, receive periodic updates on new happenings with Dr B, learn about my innovative program ADDventures in Achievement or just download your Show Notes, you can do all of that on my website, as well as learn about other services and resources, that is…if that’s of interest to you. Thanks for listening… Until the next time… Bye for now…


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