Ask Dr B about Relationships: My ADHD Makes All Kinds of Relationships Hard - Episode 059

Hey ADDers! If you’re married, living together, dating, have close friends or it’s you and you…these are all different forms of relationships that you are in. And where there are relationships, there are potential challenges and delightful times to be shared.

I look at relationships as kind of a progression. First, there is the relationship you have with yourself. Then there is the relationship you have with one other person, whether that’s a friendship or coupleship or partnership in business. From there, your coupleship or partnership could expand into a family or expansion of a business. Point is, in my mind it always starts with you.  If I'm describing your life, then this episode is for you!!

In this episode, I talk about:

  • Relationship With Yourself
  • Relationship With Another
  • Relationship With Family or Team
  • Stories About Relationships From Listeners
  • New Programs Coming Soon - Couples in Motion & ADDventures Companion
  • The Importance Of...
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Executive Function Skill of Inhibit – There’s more to it than you might think - Episode 058

Hey ADDers! Do you have trouble “inhibiting” your impulses? Even though most of the executive function assessments typically look at the behavioral stuff, like blurting out, touching things you shouldn’t, cutting people off and more, to me there is so much more to understanding Inhibiting than just the behavioral manifestations. What about Inhibiting your thoughts and feelings? By that I mean, do your thoughts and feelings seem to have a mind of their own and “just happen” uninhibited, or do you have a say so in what you think and feel and when you think and feel what you do?  If I'm describing your life, then this episode is for you!!

In this episode, I talk about:

  • What Is Behavioral Inhibiting and How You Can Develop It
  • What Is Thinking Inhibiting and How You Can Develop It
  • What Is Emotional Inhibiting and How You Can Develop It
  • First Annual 2-Day Training in CA
  • The importance of celebrating your WINS

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Ask Dr B about Heritability of ADHD & Executive Function, Emotions & Feelings - Episode 052

Hey ADDers!  Do you ever wonder about the heritability of ADHD or how your emotions and feelings impact your executive functioning?  In fact, do you know the difference between your emotions and your feelings?  If yes and no, this episode is for you!!

According to Pema Chodron, an American Tibetan Buddhist and ordained nun, if you allow an emotion to exist for 90 seconds without judging it, it will disappear. According to Jill Bolte Taylor, a neuroanatomist and author of A Brain Scientist’s Personal Journey, “once triggered, the chemical released by your brain surges through your body and you have a physiological experience. Within 90 seconds from the initial trigger, the chemical component of anger has completely dissipated from your blood and your automatic response is over. If, however, you remain angry after those 90 seconds have passed, then it is because you have chosen to let that circuit continue to run.”

In this episode, I talk about:

  • The...
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An Executive Function – Self-Soothing When You’re Emotionally Dysregulated - Episode 051

Hey ADDers!  Do you get overwhelmed, have meltdowns and generally have a hard time calming yourself down when you experience an intense emotion or emotional situation?  If so, this episode is for you!!

And if you haven’t yet listened to episode 050, it’s an important milestone for me and I shared four special things in that episode, including a free gift giveaway for you.  Be sure to listen and claim your free gift before the offer expires.  Enjoy!

In this episode, I talk about:

  • Grounding Techniques
  • Self-Soothing Strategies for Quick Shifts
  • Self-Soothing Self-Talk
  • Self-Soothing With Your Senses

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Ask Dr B about a pre-requisite to developing executive function skills - Episode 050

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It's my 50th episode and I'm celebrating today!!  I have four special things to share with you as we move along in this episode.

There are some interesting stats I read and want to share with you; they’re actually kind of sad.  I read that roughly 20 percent of people needing to change an unhealthy behavior are actually prepared and ready to do so.  To me, that means that the other 80 percent needs to get prepared and ready to change – meaning go through those early stages of change, which are actually very important and deserve to be respected as such.  Puts a different spin on change, doesn’t it?  And that only 15-20 percent of people ever make it to Adoption.  That stat makes me really sad because it tells me that the majority of people don’t have what they need in order to make the changes they do want to make; or at least that’s the meaning I put to this information.

In this episode, I talk about:

  • Prochaska's...
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An Executive Function - You’ve Got To Feel Like It To Do It - Episode 049

In the last episode, I talked about how we are a “feeling driven people” and if we don’t feel like it, we don’t do it; plain and simple.  Some might interpret this as immature and say that you have to do things you don’t feel like doing when you are a mature adult.  I don’t disagree.  However, I have a little different take on this.  Of course, we have to do things that we don’t feel like doing (meaning would rather not do; that’s part of maturity).  However, the part of this that’s important to distinguish is to “feel like it.”  There is a feeling that goes with what we do.  I might get the yard work done because I feel like doing it.  So, what is the “FEELING” that I experience that allows me to get it done?  It depends.  

In this episode, I talk about:

  • Cognition and Meta-Cognition
  • Affect and Meta-Affect
  • The importance of being able to shift your...
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Ask Dr B - about Inattention, Clarity & Foresight - Episode 048

Hey ADDers! I’m so glad you could join me today, and I hope you’re enjoying the little changes I’ve been making to deliver more focused content on topics of importance to you, as well as the way in which that content is now being delivered. When I first launched this podcast show, I felt the format needed to have three stories to illustrate the points of information I was teaching because we all remember stories. I would think about the characters, the point of the stories and work to pull it all together in a way that I thought would be good for you as my listeners. Since I was making up all the stories that I shared with you; that was roughly 6 stories a week that I needed to create and organize. If you know anything about my background and challenges with writing, you know that this was a huge undertaking for me and I made it work and grew as a result.

I chose the topics of Inattention, Clarity and Foresight for today because I’ve received a lot of...

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Listen up - Mold isn’t innocent & can really impact your brain & body functions - Episode 047

Hey ADDers!  So glad you could join me for today’s podcast episode.  I shared in the last episode that I was late on the release of episode 46 because of some health challenges last week, and said that I was going to talk about it today.  So, today’s episode is a little different format, however, I trust you will find benefit in the content.

The information I need to share today is relevant whether you have ADHD, executive function deficits, depression, anxiety or physical health challenges.  Why is it important for me to share this?  Because if you aren’t aware of the far-reaching effects of mold (which I wasn’t) and where it can hide and what it can do to your brain and body, you need this information.  And I’m only scratching the surface here.

And it isn’t just water leaks creating mold you need to be thinking of.  Many of the adults I work with have stacks and stacks of papers lying all around because...

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Ask Dr B – about Co-Existing ADHD & Executive Function Disorder - Episode 046

Hey ADDers!  I’m so glad you could join me today, and hope that you’ve taken the time to listen to a few key episodes that seem to be on the minds of many of my listeners; perhaps you are one of them:  Episode 036, Ask Dr B About The High Cost Of Not Knowing About Executive Function, Episode 027, Figuring Out Where To Start When So Much Needs Your Attention Now, and Episode 001, It’s Not Your Fault & You’re Not Off The Hook Either.  If you’ve listened to all three of these episodes, you know what I’m talking about and if you haven’t I highly recommend that you listen to them soon.

Today, I want to talk about how ADHD and Executive Function Disorder or EFD co-exist and what that looks like.  I feel it’s important for me to talk about this because I keep hearing people talk about their ADHD symptoms and they are confusing their ADHD symptoms with their EFD symptoms.  So, I want to shed some light on EFD...

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Ask Dr B – about the High Cost of Not Knowing About Executive Functions - Episode 036

Welcome to the sixteenth Ask Dr B episode, and the thirty-sixth episode overall of Harness Your ADHD Power, a podcast show I created to explore the many facets of adult life with ADHD and how you can learn to harness your personal ADHD power to become unstoppable.

I’m so glad you could join me today.  We’ve got a lot to cover today, so let’s get to it.

I’ve been pretty hyperfocused lately on Executive Function overall and specifically the skills that we need to develop for a more successful adult life, especially if we didn’t develop them starting back in childhood.  So whether you’ve mastered them all (which probably isn’t true if you’re listening to my podcast show) or will be learning them now, the point is, you need to learn them because they’re the foundational skills that we build a successful adult life on; with greater ability to successfully navigate the responsibilities that comes with adulthood....

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