Do You Forgive Yourself or Others - 083

forgiveness Mar 03, 2021

Forgiveness is a gift.  We can give this gift at any time - to ourselves or to others.  It’s our “get out of jail” gift card – releasing each of us from a prison of our own making.  When we refuse to forgive, and choose to hold onto mistakes and use them against ourselves or others, we are setting ourselves up for a miserable life.  How many times do we need to relive the pain of the past before we’ve experienced enough pain or misery?

To forgive is to stop feeling angry or resentful toward ourselves or to others for a mistake or harm caused.  To forgive doesn’t mean I forget or condone; it simply means that I stop poisoning myself with my past mistakes or the harms done to me by others.  And, as I said in the previous episode, “for things to change, you have to change.”  I had to learn how to forgive, let go and move on.  You also have to learn how to forgive, let go and move on.  If not, you could stay stuck forever.

In this episode Dr B talks about:

  • What is the point in forgiving myself, the damage is already done?
  • What’s the point in apologizing to others for the mistakes I’ve made in the past; they continue to bring up my past mistakes and punish me with them.
  • Forgiving myself or others is like me saying that what happened was okay, and it’s not okay.
  • The importance of celebrating your wins
  • Enrollment opening March 7th for the ADDventures in Achievement Foundational Skills program 

Developing your Executive Function Skills and shifting your limiting beliefs is the fastest and most effective way to overcome ADHD limitations, find focus, gain confidence, and a newfound freedom in your life!

My mission is to put an end to the worldwide needless suffering of adults with ADHD and those with under-developed Executive Function Skills - whether from ADHD, chronic depression or anxiety, trauma, addictions or chronic illnesses.  And, you don't need a formal diagnosis to know you need help developing these executive function skills in order to greatly reduce your suffering.

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A Favorite Quote:

Oprah Winfrey said, “True forgiveness is when you can say ‘Thank you for that experience'."  

What this quote says to me is that everything that is happening in my life is happening “for me” not “to me” – I am not a victim.  When I am grateful every day for the lessons in my life that are helping me to become more of the person I am intended to be, and I truly forgive myself and others, I take a huge step forward and set myself free.  My wish for all of you is that you can learn to feel the same about your lessons in life and truly forgive yourself and others – and set yourself free.

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