Exploring Our Assumptions, Expectations, Shame & Guilt - 029

Welcome to the twenty-ninth episode of Harness Your ADHD Power, a podcast show I created to explore the many facets of adult life with ADHD and how you can learn to harness your personal ADHD power to become unstoppable.

In this episode, I’m exploring our assumptions, expectations, shame and guilt as it relates to adult life with ADHD and helping you to move past it to a new found freedom.

The increasing numbers of adults living with ADHD-related impairments are not a trivial matter, and have far-reaching consequences for all of us.   Quality of life is less and the erosion of human potential is apparent.  So many adults report feelings of hopelessness and frustration.  This has to stop and be turned around now.

This is not simply annoying laziness or apparent lack of willpower or being scatterbrained or a bit disorganized, frequently late and excessively forgetful.  It is also not the extraordinary gift that endows the person with exceptional talent, creativity and the ability to “think outside the box” if they are “dis-abled” by a strangle hold of incapacitated executive functions.  In fact, those who are bright and gifted often suffer greatly because the gifts and talents they possess are unable to manifest due to executive function deficits.  This can lead to an essential depression, different from other depressions, because it calls into question the very nature of the meaning of life itself for that adult.  These deficits are chronically frustrating, embarrassing, and discouraging in many aspects of daily life.  They can destroy self-confidence and severely erode one’s hope of ever being adequate enough to meet reasonable expectations of family, teachers, employers, friends, or oneself. 

It is important to note that at present, most medical, mental health, and educational professionals receive little or no instruction during their professional education to help them learn to recognize and treat ADHD in children or adults. So, instead of “assuming” that the professional you seek your help from does have the appropriate training to both recognize, assess and treat ADHD and executive function deficits, you need to “assume” that they do not, and ask about their training to know you are in appropriately trained hands; that is, if that’s important to you.

Some of the goals for this episode are to inform you of this absence of training in most professionals, to clear away some misinformation held by both individuals who suffer directly from ADHD and those who love and care for them – specifically assumptions and expectations, to encourage the cultivation of unending empathy and compassion for all of us as the antidote to shame and guilt, to instill hope where very little may currently exist, as well as provide you with some action steps you can begin to take today.

One of the reasons I created my innovative online program, ADDventures in Achievement, is because I know just how complex this situation is, as well as the many other challenges that those of you with focus, follow through and self-management issues face, and I wanted to create a safe and productive space where we could work together, both as a community group as well as 1:1, to ensure that each and every one of you gets what you need to sort out your own unique set of circumstances as well as the solutions to them.

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