The Shame Spiral and How to Get Out of It - 127
Jul 21, 2026Beneath the disorganization, the unfinished projects, the chronic lateness, and the avoidance — there is almost always shame. In this episode, DrB goes straight to the root. She explains the difference between guilt and shame, traces where ADHD shame comes from, breaks down the mechanics of the shame spiral, and offers a clear, practical path out. This is not feel-good talk. This is skill-based, brain-based work that changes the foundation everything else is built on.
Key Points Covered
- Guilt vs. shame — and why the difference matters for ADHD adults
- How ADHD shame is built across a lifetime of misunderstanding
- The shame spiral: trigger → story → nervous system → paralysis
- 4 concrete steps to interrupt and exit the shame spiral
- The long-game: building a new relationship with yourself
Links Mentioned
drbarbaracohen.com — All episodes + show resources
It Was Never You Masterclass – More Than ADHD Coaching, August 25, 2026, 10 am – 2 pm pacific time + VIP hour: https://itwasneveryoumasterclass.com/
Get Sh*t Done (GSD) Program Information – 9-month program
https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/gsdprogram
Grant assistance page for help with funding for GSD program:
https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/financial-assistance
The Transformation Club (TTC) – if time or money commitments have been holding you back - the affordable membership program for Executive Function skills development:
https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/ttcprogram
Free PDF - 13 Signs Weak Executive Functioning Is Holding You Back:
https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/Executive-Function
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